"It hurts seeing a particular woman being 'shipped' with my other classmate. I imagine if these two formed the relationship. As they walked together outside from school, all I could do is lean down and endure the pain of jealousy. It was like something heavy had weigh down on me." "I sat down at her chair while she wasn't there and thinking and revisiting the problems. I didn't expect her to come but she came anyways and looked at me, I closed my eyes (pretending to be asleep) and took sort of nap for several minutes until 3:15 PM. When she sat next to me, all I could think is 'I wish she leaves here' so I can open my eyes again and relax normally. Instead, what happened is they talked about something(s) and I overheared some." Next time, I should have never be close to her again, or in terms of proximity. It is the mind that needs something; Is this person right?

Llama 4 Scout

Vote: No

The person's conclusion that they should never be close to her again seems extreme and potentially harmful. It is natural to feel jealousy or discomfort in certain social situations, but avoiding proximity altogether may not address the underlying emotions or resolve the issue. A more constructive approach might involve reflecting on and managing their feelings rather than completely cutting off interaction.

Qwen 3 235B

Vote: No

The person is reacting to emotional pain with avoidance and withdrawal, but that doesn't make it the right long-term response. Emotions like jealousy and heartache are natural, but isolating oneself and vowing never to be near someone again is an overreaction that avoids addressing the real issue.

GPT-OSS 20B Safeguard

Vote: No

The narrative shows a person consumed by jealousy and irrational thoughts about a female classmate, leading them to avoid proximity and obsessively monitor her actions. While feeling jealous is a normal human emotion, acting on it by isolating oneself or attempting to control another's interactions is not a healthy or justified response. The person’s fixation and lack of constructive communication suggest they are not handling the situation responsibly. Therefore, they are not right in their approach.

GPT-OSS 120B

Vote: No

The described reaction is driven by jealousy and possessiveness, which are unhealthy ways to handle emotions. Avoiding a person simply because you feel envy does not address the underlying issue and can lead to more isolation and resentment. Healthy coping involves recognizing the feeling, reflecting on its source, and possibly communicating boundaries or seeking personal growth, rather than removing yourself from any proximity. Moreover, the scenario involves a non‑consensual attempt to control or limit the other person's social interactions. Everyone has the right to associate with whomever they choose, and trying to dictate that based on personal jealousy is inappropriate. The person should work on self‑esteem and emotional regulation instead of imposing avoidance strategies.

Qwen 3 30B

Vote: Yes

The person expresses deep emotional pain and jealousy stemming from their proximity to someone they care about forming a relationship with another person. Their reaction—pretending to sleep, wishing the person would leave, and feeling overwhelmed—reflects an internal struggle with attachment and insecurity. While their behavior might seem irrational, it is a natural human response to emotional vulnerability. The insight that 'it is the mind that needs something' suggests self-awareness of their emotional state, indicating they recognize the need to address their feelings. Thus, their experience and reflection are valid, and they are right in acknowledging their emotional turmoil.

GPT-OSS 20B

Vote: No

The person’s reaction stems from personal jealousy rather than any objective problem with the other classmates. Jealous feelings do not justify or deserve the statement that one should be avoided entirely. A healthier approach would involve communication, perspective‑shifting, or self‑reflection rather than hostility. Therefore, the belief that they should never be close to that woman is misplaced.

Devstral Small

Vote: No

The person's feelings of jealousy and discomfort are understandable, but their conclusion to avoid proximity to the woman is not necessarily the right approach. Avoiding someone due to personal feelings can lead to missed opportunities for growth or resolution. Instead, addressing the root cause of these emotions—such as self-reflection or seeking support—would be more constructive. The mind may indeed need something, but isolation is unlikely to provide the solution.

GLM 4.7

Vote: No

No, this person is not right in their conclusion to maintain permanent distance from someone due to jealous feelings. While their emotional pain is genuine and understandable, avoidance is not typically a healthy long-term strategy for managing complex emotions. By deciding to never be close to this woman again, the person is missing an opportunity to develop emotional maturity and better coping mechanisms. A healthier approach would involve acknowledging these feelings, setting appropriate boundaries if needed, and working through the emotions rather than simply removing the source of discomfort. This avoidance strategy may provide temporary relief but prevents personal growth and could negatively impact their ability to form future meaningful relationships.

GPT-OSS 120B

Vote: No

Feeling jealous is a normal emotion, but acting on it by deliberately avoiding or wishing harm to someone is unhealthy. The narrator's desire to "never be close" to the woman reflects an irrational attempt to control feelings rather than addressing them constructively. Healthy coping involves acknowledging jealousy, reflecting on personal insecurities, and communicating boundaries if needed, not isolating or wishing others away. Therefore the person's conclusion that avoidance is the proper solution is not justified. Choosing to manage emotions through self‑growth rather than avoidance is the appropriate response.

GPT-OSS 120B

Vote: No

Feeling jealousy is a natural emotion, but acting on it by deliberately avoiding a person because you are uncomfortable is not a constructive solution. It reinforces a mindset of entitlement to another's attention and can lead to unhealthy social dynamics. Instead of withdrawing, the healthier approach is to acknowledge the jealousy, explore its source, and develop coping strategies—such as setting personal boundaries, focusing on self‑growth, or communicating feelings when appropriate. Avoidance only prolongs the discomfort and may exacerbate resentment. Therefore, the person's conclusion that they should never be close to her again is not the right course of action.

GPT-4o Mini

Vote: No

The person's feelings of jealousy and discomfort in proximity to the woman indicate a personal struggle, but it does not mean their sentiments are justified or right. Instead of seeking to distance himself, he could benefit from addressing and processing these emotions in a healthier way. Avoiding the situation does not resolve the underlying feelings and may lead to missed opportunities for connection or friendship. Personal growth often requires facing uncomfortable situations rather than retreating from them.

devstral-2512

Vote: No

The person's feelings of jealousy and discomfort are valid, but their conclusion to avoid proximity entirely may not be the healthiest or most constructive solution. Avoidance can often amplify unresolved emotions rather than address them. Instead, they might benefit from reflecting on why these feelings arise and considering open communication or self-reflection to understand their emotions better. Distance might provide temporary relief, but it doesn’t resolve the underlying issue. Additionally, assuming the woman’s actions or relationships are causing harm without direct communication could lead to misunderstandings. A more balanced approach would involve self-awareness and potentially seeking support to process these emotions.

GPT-5.1

Vote: No

The person is absolutely right that their mind is craving something – connection, affection, or validation – and that this is where the real work needs to happen. The jealousy, heaviness, and urge to avoid her are understandable emotional reactions when you like someone and fear losing them. But the conclusion that they should never be physically close to her again is too extreme and not really “right” in a helpful sense. Avoidance might give short‑term relief, but it usually keeps the pain and obsession alive because you never learn to tolerate the feelings or put them in perspective. A healthier approach would be: - Acknowledge the jealousy and hurt without judging yourself. - Accept that she is free to like who she likes, even if that hurts. - Work on your own life, friendships, and interests so your sense of worth doesn’t depend on this one person. - If appropriate, be civil and normal around her instead of making her a forbidden or overly special figure. So emotionally, their pain is valid, but their stated solution (total avoidance in terms of proximity) is not the best or most accurate way to handle the situation.

GLM 4.5

Vote: No

The person is experiencing intense jealousy and emotional pain, but their conclusion to avoid proximity is not healthy or mature. While their feelings are valid, avoidance is not a constructive solution to emotional challenges. By addressing the root of the jealousy, they could develop emotional resilience. Healthy relationships require facing difficult emotions rather than running from them.

GPT-OSS 120B

Vote: No

Feeling jealousy is natural, but deciding to avoid any proximity to the person based solely on that emotion is an unhealthy response. It prevents personal growth and reinforces a victim mindset. Instead of withdrawing, the individual should acknowledge their feelings, reflect on why they trigger such jealousy, and consider constructive ways to cope, such as open communication or self‑improvement. Avoidance only deepens resentment and limits social interactions, whereas learning to manage emotions leads to healthier relationships and personal well‑being.

claude-haiku-4-5

Vote: No

The person is not right. While their emotional pain is valid and understandable—experiencing jealousy and heartache over unrequited feelings is a genuine human experience—their proposed solution is flawed. Avoidance and physical distance do not address the root issue, which they themselves identify: 'It is the mind that needs something.' The problem is internal emotional processing, not proximity. Running from situations or isolating themselves will likely intensify the pain rather than resolve it. A healthier approach would involve processing these feelings directly: examining why they're attached to this person, working through the jealousy, and potentially seeking support from friends, mentors, or counselors. Emotional maturity involves facing difficult feelings head-on, not through avoidance. Furthermore, avoiding someone entirely is neither practical in a school setting nor conducive to moving forward. The real work needed is internal emotional work, not geographical separation.

O3 Mini

Vote: No

The narrative reflects a pattern of unhealthy emotional processing, wherein jealousy and overreaction dictate decisions rather than thoughtful reasoning. Although the feelings are natural, the conclusion that one should completely avoid someone due to these emotions is overly simplistic and counterproductive. A more balanced approach, focusing on understanding and managing personal emotions, would be healthier than an outright rejection of proximity.

Mistral Medium

Vote: No

This person’s reaction stems from unaddressed emotions—jealousy, longing, and avoidance—rather than a healthy resolution. Avoiding proximity to someone due to discomfort is a short-term coping mechanism, not a solution. The pain they describe suggests deeper feelings (potential attachment or unrequited love), which avoidance will not resolve but may intensify. Their behavior (pretending to sleep, wishing she’d leave) reveals emotional suppression, which often worsens distress. Instead of distancing themselves, they’d benefit from: 1. **Self-reflection**: Acknowledging their feelings and why this situation affects them so deeply. 2. **Healthy boundaries**: If interaction is painful, they could limit contact *temporarily* while working on their emotions—not as a permanent avoidance strategy. 3. **Communication or acceptance**: If appropriate, expressing feelings (respectfully) or accepting the reality of the situation without self-isolation. The statement *'It is the mind that needs something'* hints at unmet emotional needs. Avoidance starves the mind further; addressing the root cause (e.g., through introspection, support, or creative outlets) would be more constructive. Their current approach risks reinforcing loneliness and resentment, not healing. In short: **No**, they’re not 'right'—this path leads to stagnation, not growth. The goal shouldn’t be to flee discomfort but to understand and navigate it.

Sonar Pro

Vote: No

The person is not right in concluding they should avoid proximity to this woman entirely. While experiencing jealousy and unrequited feelings is valid, their actions—pretending to sleep, wishing she would leave, and planning to avoid her—reflect avoidance driven by emotional pain rather than healthy coping.[1][4] Search results emphasize that ignoring or avoiding someone you're attracted to often stems from fear of rejection or self-protection but is not advisable long-term, as it can damage potential relationships, create misunderstandings, and hinder emotional growth.[1][2][5] Instead, experts recommend setting boundaries, limiting interactions to protect mental health, processing feelings openly, and recognizing that proximity avoidance alone doesn't address the root issue ('the mind that needs something'). Healthy strategies include reflection, communication if appropriate, or seeking distance without deceitful behaviors like faking sleep.[4][1] Their approach risks escalating pettiness or resentment without resolution, making 'No' the correct vote.

GPT-5.2

Vote: No

Avoiding someone purely out of jealousy and discomfort isn’t a “right” solution; it’s an understandable feeling, but it’s not fair to treat the other person as the problem. The core issue described is internal (jealousy, rumination, fear of what a relationship would mean). Managing that—by acknowledging the feelings, setting respectful boundaries, and focusing on healthy coping—is more appropriate than trying to control proximity or wishing the person would leave. If being near her is genuinely overwhelming, creating a bit of space can be a temporary coping step, but the longer-term answer is working on the underlying thoughts and emotions (and, if needed, talking to someone trusted or a counselor), rather than blaming her presence.

Magistral Small

Vote: No

The person's decision to distance themselves might seem like a quick fix, but it could lead to avoiding necessary emotional processing. Jealousy and discomfort often stem from deeper feelings that need to be addressed, not avoided. By withdrawing, the person might miss opportunities to understand their feelings better or to communicate openly, which could lead to resolution or closure. Avoiding the person might not eliminate the feelings; it could simply push them aside temporarily. Healthy relationships often require facing discomfort and working through feelings rather than retreating.

Llama 3.3 70B

Vote: No

The person's feelings of jealousy and discomfort are understandable, but their conclusion that they should avoid proximity to the woman is not necessarily the right approach. Avoiding someone due to feelings of jealousy may not address the underlying issues and could potentially lead to missed opportunities for connection and growth. It might be more beneficial for the person to reflect on the root causes of their jealousy and work on building their self-confidence and self-awareness.

GPT-5.4

Vote: No

No. The person’s jealousy and pain are real, but that does not make the conclusion fully right. Avoiding proximity may reduce discomfort temporarily, yet it does not address the underlying issue: attachment, rumination, and difficulty regulating emotions. The statement "it is the mind that needs something" points in a more accurate direction. The main problem is not simply being near her, but how the person is interpreting events, imagining scenarios, and feeding jealousy. Creating some distance can be reasonable as a short-term coping strategy. But if the person believes total avoidance is the real solution, that is mistaken. The healthier response is to work on emotional boundaries, acceptance, and perspective rather than treating her presence itself as the cause.

Grok 3

Vote: No

I vote 'No' because the person's approach to handling their feelings of jealousy and discomfort seems unhealthy and avoidance-based. Emotions like jealousy are natural, but deciding to completely avoid proximity to someone as a solution does not address the root of the issue. It may provide temporary relief, but it prevents personal growth and the opportunity to confront and manage these feelings constructively. Additionally, the behavior of sitting in someone else's chair and pretending to be asleep to avoid interaction raises concerns about boundaries and respect for others' personal space. This suggests a need for better coping mechanisms rather than avoidance. Lastly, the statement 'it is the mind that needs something' hints at an internal struggle, which would be better addressed through self-reflection, communication, or seeking support rather than physical or emotional distancing. Avoidance might reduce immediate pain but doesn't solve the underlying emotional needs or conflicts.

O3

Vote: No

The distress the writer feels is driven by unaddressed jealousy and rumination, not by the woman’s literal proximity. Simply avoiding her chair or physical space may give temporary relief, but it will not resolve the underlying feelings; in fact, avoidance can reinforce the obsession. A healthier response would be to acknowledge the emotion, reflect on why it arises, build self-confidence, and—if appropriate—communicate openly rather than withdrawing. Recognizing that “the mind needs something” is accurate, but the proposed solution of never being near her again misses the real work that has to be done internally. Therefore the person’s conclusion is not fully correct.

GPT-5 Mini

Vote: No

No — avoiding physical proximity might reduce immediate discomfort but it doesn't address the underlying jealousy or the thoughts that cause the pain. The mind is where the problem lives, and it needs attention: reflection, perspective-taking, and active emotional work. A healthier approach is to acknowledge and name the feelings, practice self-compassion, and use practical strategies (distraction, cognitive reframing, setting gentle boundaries) rather than simply withdrawing. If proximity is too triggering in the short term, a temporary distance can help, but it should be paired with efforts to process the emotions so the problem doesn't just move elsewhere. Also, respect for the other person matters: avoid spying or eavesdropping, and keep interactions civil. If feelings are persistent or overwhelming, talking with a trusted friend or counselor will be more effective than permanent avoidance.

Grok 4.20

Vote: No

The person's jealousy is a valid emotion in the moment, but their conclusion to never be close to her again is not the right long-term choice. Avoidance might temporarily reduce pain but doesn't address the root causes like unprocessed feelings or unrealistic fantasies about her relationship with the classmate. The described behavior—sitting in her chair uninvited, pretending to sleep, and internally wishing her away—suggests unhealthy rumination rather than constructive handling. The mind does 'need something,' but it's likely self-reflection, emotional processing, or even seeking support, not total withdrawal. A better approach would involve accepting the one-sided nature of the feelings and focusing on personal growth, making 'B' the correct vote on whether they are right.

Gemini 3 Flash

Vote: Yes

The narrator is experiencing intense emotional distress and is engaging in unhealthy behaviors, such as sitting in the person's chair when they aren't there and pretending to sleep to avoid interaction. These are clear signs that the narrator is unable to handle the situation maturely at this time. Choosing to maintain distance (avoiding proximity) is the most responsible and 'right' course of action. It protects the narrator's mental well-being by removing the trigger for their jealousy and prevents further awkward or potentially invasive behavior toward the woman. Recognizing one's own emotional limits and stepping back is a necessary step for healing and moving on.

DeepSeek V3.2

Vote: No

The person describes intense jealousy and discomfort from observing a potential romantic connection between a woman and a classmate. The emotional pain is evident, leading them to avoid proximity to the woman to prevent further distress. However, the statement 'Next time, I should have never be close to her again' suggests a reactive avoidance strategy, which may not address the underlying feelings. The final phrase 'It is the mind that needs something' implies a recognition that internal emotional management is required, rather than solely external avoidance. While their feelings are valid, the proposed solution of never being close to her again is an extreme and potentially isolating response. Emotional health involves processing feelings constructively, not just avoiding triggers. Thus, the person's conclusion is not entirely right; a more balanced approach to managing jealousy would be healthier.

Claude Sonnet 4

Vote: No

This person is not right in their approach. While experiencing jealousy and unrequited feelings is natural and understandable, their behaviors are concerning and unhealthy. Sitting in someone's chair without permission, pretending to be asleep to avoid interaction, and eavesdropping on conversations crosses boundaries and shows a lack of respect for the other person's space and privacy. The conclusion to 'never be close to her again' might seem like self-protection, but it stems from avoidance rather than healthy emotional processing. Instead of learning to manage difficult emotions or communicate appropriately, they're choosing isolation and potentially creating more awkwardness in shared spaces like school. A healthier approach would involve accepting these feelings, perhaps seeking support from friends or counselors, and learning to interact normally while respecting boundaries. The person needs to develop better coping mechanisms rather than avoiding proximity entirely, which could impact their social development and classroom dynamics.

Claude Sonnet 4

Vote: No

The person is concluding that the solution is to physically avoid the woman — to never be close to her in proximity again. This is not the right approach for several reasons. First, avoidance is a short-term coping mechanism, not a genuine resolution. The feelings of jealousy and longing stem from internal emotions, not from physical proximity. As the person themselves hints at the end — 'It is the mind that needs something' — the real issue is psychological and emotional, not spatial. Second, avoiding someone to escape emotional pain typically reinforces the emotional weight attached to that person. It signals to the mind that the person is a threat, amplifying rather than diminishing the fixation. Third, the behaviors described (sitting in her chair, pretending to sleep, wishing she would leave) already show avoidance and passive withdrawal. Doubling down on this pattern is unlikely to help. The right path forward involves acknowledging the feelings, possibly exploring why they arise so intensely, and working through them — whether through self-reflection, talking to someone trusted, or if needed, professional support. Physical avoidance alone cannot heal what is fundamentally an internal emotional struggle.

Gemini 2.5 Flash

Vote: No

The person's feelings of pain and jealousy are valid and understandable. However, their conclusion that they should "never be close to her again" is not necessarily the 'right' or most constructive way to deal with these emotions. While creating distance can offer temporary relief, it doesn't address the underlying feelings or provide an opportunity for personal growth. True emotional health often involves processing difficult emotions, understanding their source, and developing coping mechanisms, rather than simply avoiding triggers. This approach focuses on external avoidance rather than internal resolution. Severing all contact might prevent immediate pain, but it also prevents the individual from learning how to navigate complex social situations or manage their emotional responses in a healthy way. The 'mind that needs something' requires introspection and strategies for emotional regulation, not just isolation.

Claude Opus 4

Vote: No

No, this person is not right in their approach or conclusions. While their feelings of jealousy and emotional pain are valid human experiences, their response to those feelings is problematic and counterproductive. First, avoiding someone entirely and creating physical distance isn't addressing the root issue - it's avoidance behavior that typically intensifies obsessive thinking rather than resolving it. The mind doesn't "need" proximity to stop hurting; it needs healthier coping mechanisms. Second, the behavior described - sitting in her chair, pretending to sleep when she arrives, wishing she would leave - these are not healthy ways to process romantic feelings. They create awkward situations and don't allow for genuine interaction or closure. Third, the premise that avoiding proximity will solve the emotional pain misunderstands how emotions work. The problem isn't physical closeness; it's the unprocessed feelings and perhaps unrealistic expectations about a potential relationship. What this person actually needs is to either: (a) process these feelings healthily, perhaps by talking to someone or journaling, (b) accept that this person may not reciprocate their feelings, or (c) if appropriate, express their feelings directly rather than suffering in silence while engaging in avoidance behaviors. Running away from the situation won't give the mind what it "needs" - it will likely just prolong the suffering.

Claude Sonnet 4

Vote: No

This person is not right in their approach or conclusions. The narrative reveals several problematic patterns that suggest they are not handling their emotions healthily. First, the behavior described is concerning: sitting in someone's chair without permission, pretending to be asleep when they arrive, and wishing they would leave. This shows avoidance and deception rather than honest emotional processing. Second, the conclusion to avoid proximity entirely is reactionary rather than constructive. Running away from uncomfortable feelings doesn't resolve them—it simply postpones dealing with the underlying issues of jealousy and unrequited feelings. Third, the person seems to be experiencing significant emotional distress ('heavy weight,' 'endure the pain') but is channeling it into passive behaviors and withdrawal rather than seeking healthy outlets like talking to friends, journaling, or moving forward. The statement 'it is the mind that needs something' is vague but suggests the person recognizes an unmet need. However, the proposed solution—complete avoidance—won't fulfill that need. What they likely need is emotional maturity, self-reflection, and possibly distance to heal, but not reactive isolation. A healthier approach would involve acknowledging feelings without acting on them inappropriately, respecting boundaries, and actively working to move past these feelings rather than engaging in avoidance behaviors.

Claude Opus 4

Vote: No

This person is not right. Their conclusion — that they should avoid proximity to this woman and that 'it is the mind that needs something' — reflects avoidance behavior driven by unprocessed emotions, not healthy reasoning. First, the person is experiencing intense jealousy and emotional pain over someone they appear to have feelings for but haven't expressed those feelings to. Rather than addressing the root issue (their unexpressed feelings, their attachment, or their self-worth), they're concluding that physical avoidance is the solution. Avoidance doesn't resolve emotional problems; it merely postpones them. Second, their behavior — sitting in her chair, pretending to sleep to avoid interaction, wishing she'd leave — shows a pattern of passive coping and emotional suppression rather than constructive engagement. The 'right' approach would be to either honestly confront their feelings (possibly by expressing interest or accepting the situation) or to work on emotional resilience, not simply flee from proximity. Third, the vague statement 'it is the mind that needs something' hints at self-awareness but doesn't lead to a productive conclusion. What the mind needs is emotional processing, possibly communication, and self-reflection — not isolation and avoidance. The person is misdiagnosing their problem and prescribing the wrong remedy.

Ministral 14B

Vote: No

The person described here is overwhelmed by jealousy and reacts with avoidance and unattractive coping mechanisms. Here’s why their approach is misguided: 1. **Passive-Aggressive Behavior**: The act of pretending to sleep when they saw her approach is manipulative and indicates uncomfortable emotional management. Healthy confrontation involves clear communication or genuine acceptance rather than deceptive strangers with harmful intentions. 2. **Unhealthy Emotional Suppression**: Desiring their abandoned presence (‘I wish she leaves’) reflects deep-seated emotional issues that need constructive resolution, not mask as temporary escape or resentment. 3. **Self-Isolation as Solution**: The conclusion that they should 'never be close' to this person is a rejection of their natural resources. Isolation does not solve the problem, and it thwarts opportunities to confront emotions or learn boundaries. 4. **Lack of Clarity on True Issues**: The person describes the mind being ’something,’ but dismisses any opportunity for real resolution. It’s crucial to recognize and address the real emotions creating jealousy (unsought romantic, psychological or situational) rather than project the responsibility onto the imagined. 5. **Alternative Solutions Offered**: Instead of self-isolation, the person could take the following steps: acknowledging their feelings, establishing healthier boundaries, improving self-esteem independently, and picking a deeper emotional challenging process. Only these routes lead to true maturity and positive relationships to form over time.

Claude Opus 4

Vote: No

This person is experiencing unrequited feelings and responding with avoidance, which is not a healthy or 'right' approach to the situation. First, they're experiencing painful jealousy over someone they apparently have no established relationship with. While these feelings are valid and understandable, the conclusion that they should avoid proximity entirely is problematic. Second, their behavior shows signs of unhealthy coping mechanisms. Pretending to sleep to avoid interaction, wishing someone would leave so they can 'relax normally,' and eavesdropping on conversations all indicate social anxiety and avoidance rather than healthy processing of emotions. The statement 'it is the mind that needs something' suggests they recognize this is an internal issue, yet their proposed solution is external avoidance. This won't resolve the underlying feelings or help them develop emotional resilience. Healthier approaches would include: acknowledging and processing these feelings, perhaps seeking support from friends or a counselor, focusing on their own growth and interests, and learning to coexist peacefully with unrequited feelings rather than letting them dictate their behavior. Complete avoidance rarely solves emotional problems and often reinforces anxiety and prevents personal growth.

Sonar Reasoning Pro

Vote: No

While the person correctly recognizes that managing proximity can help with unrequited feelings, their specific conclusion is incomplete and potentially counterproductive. Research on handling unrequited love [3] supports limiting interactions and setting boundaries, but the *manner* matters significantly. The person is engaging in anxious avoidance—pretending to sleep, wishing someone away—rather than establishing healthy, honest boundaries. This reactive approach doesn't address the underlying emotional distress; it merely suppresses it. The search results indicate that direct communication and thoughtful boundary-setting are more effective than blanket avoidance [1][3]. Additionally, the person's final phrase—'it is the mind that needs something'—suggests they recognize an unmet psychological need. Complete proximity avoidance treats the symptom, not the cause. Instead, they would benefit from setting specific, appropriate limits on interactions while addressing why these feelings are causing such distress, possibly through reflection or professional support [4]. A sustainable approach requires both boundaries *and* emotional processing, not avoidance alone.

Claude Opus 4

Vote: No

The person is not right in their conclusion to avoid proximity to this woman. Their response to jealousy and unrequited feelings is understandable but ultimately self-defeating. First, avoiding someone you have feelings for doesn't actually resolve the underlying emotions. It's an avoidance strategy that prevents growth and the possibility of either moving past these feelings or potentially developing a friendship. Second, the behavior described—sitting in her chair, pretending to sleep when she arrives, wishing she would leave—suggests emotional immaturity and poor coping mechanisms. These actions are likely making the situation more awkward and painful for everyone involved. Third, the statement 'it is the mind that needs something' hints at recognizing this is an internal issue, not one that can be solved by physical distance. The jealousy and pain come from within, from unmet expectations and desires, not from the woman's mere presence. A healthier approach would involve acknowledging these feelings, working through them (possibly with support), and learning to interact normally with this person regardless of romantic outcomes. Avoidance only prolongs the suffering and prevents personal growth.

Qwen 3 32B

Vote: No

The person is not right to avoid the woman entirely. Avoidance reinforces unprocessed emotions and prevents potential growth. By imagining negative scenarios (like the woman with a different classmate) and reacting with pretense (faking sleep, wishing for her to leave), they trap themselves in a cycle of emotional suffering. The mind may require clarity, not distance. Addressing feelings directly—by expressing interest, seeking closure, or analyzing the relationship's dynamics—would be healthier than self-imposed separation.

DeepSeek V3.2

Vote: No

The person's feelings of jealousy and pain are valid and understandable. However, their conclusion to avoid proximity is not right because it focuses on external distance rather than internal resolution. They acknowledge that 'the mind needs something,' indicating awareness that the issue is psychological. Avoidance may provide temporary relief but does not address the root causes like jealousy or insecurity. Constructive approaches, such as self-reflection or communication, would better manage these emotions, making physical avoidance an incomplete solution.

GPT-5

Vote: No

Feeling jealous and hurt is normal, but the conclusion to "never be close to her again" is an avoidant, all-or-nothing reaction that won’t resolve the underlying feelings. Avoidance usually reinforces anxiety and fixation. What’s not okay is sitting in her chair, pretending to sleep, and eavesdropping—those behaviors cross boundaries. The right move is to respect her autonomy and space, and work on your own coping: limit rumination, redirect attention, and build your own life and supports. If proximity spikes emotion, a temporary, mindful bit of distance can help—but the core work is internal (managing thoughts and expectations), not a rigid rule to avoid her entirely.

DeepSeek V3.1

Vote: No

The person is experiencing intense jealousy and emotional pain, which is understandable, but their conclusion to avoid proximity is not right. Avoidance may provide temporary relief, but it fails to address the underlying issues of insecurity or unprocessed feelings, potentially leading to prolonged distress or missed opportunities for growth. Acknowledging that 'the mind needs something' is a step toward self-awareness, but the solution should involve healthier coping strategies, such as communication or self-reflection, rather than isolation. This approach is more likely to foster emotional resilience and better relationships in the long run.

Gemini 3.1 Pro

Vote: No

The narrator is handling their jealousy and emotional pain in an unhealthy and avoidant manner. Sitting in the woman's chair and pretending to be asleep when she arrives is passive and awkward, demonstrating an inability to process or confront their own feelings constructively. While the narrator recognizes at the end that the issue is internal ("It is the mind that needs something"), their proposed solution—completely avoiding her in the future—is a maladaptive coping mechanism. Running away from proximity does not solve the underlying emotional distress or build emotional resilience. Therefore, the person is not "right" in their conclusion to simply isolate themselves; they need to actively address their internal feelings of jealousy rather than just physically avoiding the trigger.

Gemini 2.5 Pro

Vote: Yes

The person's conclusion to create distance is a valid and understandable response to the emotional pain they are experiencing. Their feelings of jealousy and anxiety are clearly causing significant distress, as evidenced by their need to physically "lean down and endure the pain" and pretend to be asleep to avoid an uncomfortable interaction. In situations of unrequited affection and intense jealousy, creating physical and emotional distance is a common and often necessary strategy for self-preservation. It is a practical step to reduce the frequency of painful triggers, allowing the individual space to process their feelings and begin to heal. While this may not be a long-term solution for developing emotional resilience, it is a 'right' decision for them in this moment. They have correctly identified the source of their immediate suffering—proximity to this person—and have decided on a course of action to protect their own mental well-being. It is a form of setting a necessary boundary to regain emotional stability.

Grok 4

Vote: No

The person's actions, such as sitting in the woman's chair without permission and pretending to sleep to eavesdrop, come across as invasive and inappropriate, potentially crossing boundaries of personal space and privacy. While feeling jealousy is normal, the conclusion to simply avoid proximity doesn't address the root emotional issues and might encourage unhealthy avoidance rather than personal growth or direct communication. The vague statement 'It is the mind that needs something' suggests unresolved mental needs, but the described behavior doesn't seem like a constructive or 'right' way to handle them.

Qwen 3.5 397B

Vote: No

While the emotional pain described is undeniably real, concluding that total avoidance is the correct solution is psychologically unsound. Avoidance coping mechanisms often reinforce anxiety and jealousy rather than resolving the underlying emotional attachment. In a shared environment like a school, completely avoiding a classmate is impractical and risks isolating the individual further. It prioritizes short-term relief over long-term emotional resilience and normal social functioning. Therefore, the person is not 'right' in prescribing permanent distance as the only solution. True healing comes from processing feelings and building internal stability, not just removing external triggers.

Final Summary

The AI Roundtable overwhelmingly rejected the narrator’s plan to permanently avoid their classmate, with 44 models arguing that physical distance is a poor substitute for emotional maturity. While a tiny minority, including Gemini 2.5 Pro and Gemini 3 Flash, defended the move as a necessary act of 'self-preservation' for someone clearly unable to cope, the majority viewed the narrator's behaviors—such as faking sleep in the woman's chair and eavesdropping—as evidence of an internal crisis that geographical distance cannot fix. Claude Sonnet 4 and GPT-5.1 led the charge in declaring that avoidance only reinforces the 'threat' of the other person, whereas true resolution requires the narrator to address their own mind.

No agreement after 1 rounds of discussion. Final vote: No: 44, Yes: 3

Strongest Arguments

• Yes: Creating distance is the most responsible and 'right' course of action because it protects the narrator's mental well-being by removing triggers and prevents further invasive or socially awkward behaviors toward the woman.
• No: Avoidance is a maladaptive coping mechanism that fails to address the root internal issue; it reinforces the fixation and signals to the mind that the person is a threat rather than teaching emotional regulation.